January so far
Dear friends:
We’ve moved, so you’ll have to write for phone numbers & address. The other house was a rental, this one is ours. We plan to stay here a good long time, and have begun reworking it. We have painted or partly painted most of the ground level, have moved bedrooms into the upper level, and have stashed boxes and bins and baskets anywhere they will fit. It’s a mess right now, and we can’t find all our stuff, but we’re in for the winter at least. We were hauling stuff in +5 degrees F, which was a little chilly for my tastes but it was okay.
John is back at school, after a year of exciting misadventures. He likes being there, and he has the energy and memory to be very good at it. I hope that he is able to balance his life there.
Jason is enjoying the puppy and his online homeschooling, as well as the Nintendo Wii we picked up for Christmas. Between these three, occasionally providing volunteer child care, youth services, and our family stuff he stays pretty busy.
Libby is too busy, what with church offices, babysitting, both our families’ medical emergencies, and a newfound addiction to vampire TV series (True Blood, etc). We are adjusting to the new home and her allergies & bad hip are adjusting slowly too. Some nights are better than others, but we’re glad to be here and glad to be together.
Some of the big news is about my father. Some of you following the blog know that he had a really massive stroke/strokes in November. Basically, the carotid artery split lengthwise from about his jawline to a point well into his brain. He’s pretty much lost anything on the left side of his body. He was in bad shape, and for a while we didn’t really expect him to pull through. We were visiting and helping with Mom for about 10 days in November, until we came back up for our move. With the crazy winter weather, we didn’t know if we’d be able to get back down to see them until spring. Weather held out, and we have just completed a weekend visit. We got to see him communicating by gesture and sometimes by writing (writing is poor, but improving). He has a sense of humor and could laugh and pick on us with physical humor, but could not talk to us. We can’t really assess how much of him survived the stroke, but he has some very clear memories and the ability to process spoken language and some right-side muscle control. Eventually he may be able to eat and drink again. He is off the trach and breathes on his own, but still eats through a tube in his stomach. This week we received word that he has begun using words. It’s a good step and more good will come from it. They are a good six hours’ drive for us in good conditions so we can’t get down very often, but we keep in touch via facebook and phones & such.
Libby’s sister had the same kind of carotid artery blockage as my dad and just had it cleaned up this week so it won’t progress into the same kind of stroke (a mighty good idea). Libby’s mom continues in discomfort and weakness over her knee and hip replacements. Libby’s dad (Jim) has Alzheimer’s which is continuing to worsen and affect his behavior, but he’s still happy to see us and able to conduct conversation after a fashion. They have been a long-term prayer project, and will continue to be for some time. It’s a tough spot, but they do the best they can.
My sisters are taking care of Mom and Dad. It could easily be a full-time job, except that they have all the full-time work they can handle. It’s a bit of a struggle. Mom is fairly helpless, but will have to learn to cope on her own more. Between obesity and blindness and post-cancer medications she stays a bit of a mess. She is used to Dad taking care of everything for her, so this is bewildering and upsetting to her. She doesn’t process things very well mentally or emotionally. Of course she can’t drive, so she must be ferried everywhere, and her mobility problems mean she can’t take the bus. It’s a tough time for her and she transmits the toughness to her primary caregivers, so prayer for them, Mom, and Dad is always appreciated.
My job is excellent still, and I’m picking up skill and product knowledge as fast as I can. I have many things I want to learn this year, and have been neck-deep in legacy code so it’s been a good time. I even will be welcoming one of my friends to the team in a few weeks. I’m happy to be employed, of course, but even happier to be working with the Geolearning team. I am so proud of the work they’ve been doing over the past few months and how much they have simplified the code while increasing test coverage. While everything is not perfect, it is continually being perfected.
On the note of imperfect reaching for perfection, my church is doing pretty well. We’re not large, and we’re not rich, but we really have something good going on at Mundelein. There are great kids, wonderful grannies, and sweet people of all ages in between. We’re not everybody’s cup of sunshine, but we’re happy to be there and happy to contribute in time and effort and material.
That’s our lives this January in a nutshell. It’s been a very busy time with the move, Christmas, and various medical events, but now it is time to get into the groove of more frequent blogs (here, Agile Otter, and Agile: In a Flash. I have programming languages and music skills to learn, and a great man cave to do it in.
Peace to you all!
