It’s always the same old story. There is always the pragmatic (those things that we could successfully do) in conflict with the ethical (those things we should or should not do).
Yesterday I was driving. Outside our subdivision there is a little park and a pedestrian/bike crossing. It is at the bottom of a hill, and the unwary drive may have built up some inertia coming downhill from the subdivision entrance. I was driving down the hill and I saw some kids on bikes coming out of the park. They stopped, which was wise of them. I saw that there was truck coming down the hill, and they were waiting to see if he would stop or not.
The Ethical/legal/correct thing was to stop and the crossing and wait for the kids. The pragmatic saw that they were stopped anyway, and waiting on the other truck. I could zip across the crossing while they were waiting and be on my way that much sooner. I want to tell you that I did the right thing, but I didn’t. What’s worse, the truck coming down the hill behind me zipped through without even slowing. Nobody was hurt, but it’s not our fault that things went well. We were wrong.
The truck coming toward me, however, slowed and stopped. When I pulled through the crossing, he gestured at me (no, no, not *that* gesture). He gave a universal “what are you thinking” gesture and then gestured toward the kids. I felt ashamed immediately. Then he put his hand out in a “stop” gesture toward the truck following me, which did not hesitate to blow through the crossing.
Now if I were the average, stubborn, selfish jerk then I would have been mad at the approaching driver for pointing out that I’d been a selfish jerk. I would be mad at him for making me feel bad about it. But instead, I was a sorrowful jerk. I have children and live in the community there. I know the laws and who had right-of-way. I could have paused for all of ten seconds without destroying my schedule. There was no reason for my sudden burst of selfish pragmatism to overrule my caution and compassion. But it did.
Not next time. Because the other driver drew my attention, that intersection is now important to me. It’s not an annoyance that will slow me down ever again. From yesterday onward, that crossing is the safety of children and I will be watching for it. I might even join the anonymous northward driver in correcting those who don’t appreciate how important and precious that crossing really is.
But this is why fellowhip with righteous is so important. If we are not reminded from time to time, we may be overcome by pragmatism and business and selfishness. The righteous will give us a reminder, even if it doesn’t make us feel good. If we are wise, we’ll welcome that correction and even seek it out.
If you were driving north on Tiffany yesterday, I just want to say “thank you” and “I’m sorry”.